Current faves: Finding joy in the everyday, latest workouts and more

Hi, my friend. How are you? What’s new?

I keep forgetting that we’re already (very much) into the month of August. This year has been flying like crazy. And even though this summer didn’t turn out how I expected it to at all, it’s actually been going by quickly too. We only have about three more weeks until Brady goes back to school. And before he returns to school, I have two more little trips on the agenda — one with some girlfriends and one recently planned roadtrip with our family.

This week, I worked hard to debut a new hour of Life Barre choreography, which I’ll teach for the next month in my barre classes. I returned to hot yoga after a couple months away. I also took Rudy to the vet, I tried a treadmill class at Life Time, I did all the other stuff I usually do, and I even met some lady friends for wine and appetizers last night during the week. I was mostly doing okay this week, but I also had moments of not being okay.

This weekend, I have a tennis clinic, and I’ll be hanging out with Dave and Brady. Let’s get to the current faves of the week …

Current faves of the week

Fun

Spending time with good people

I’ve been feeling a lot of joy, mixed with sadness, these last couple of weeks. I don’t have a ton of traditional favorites to share, but I do have some stuff …

The first weekend after my miscarriage and surgery, I was not doing great, so I spent much of that time at home recovering (and my mom was here). But this past weekend, I felt physically able to do social stuff, and so I sure did. My weekend was filled with activities, from the beginning to end.

On Friday evening of last week, I went over to a neighborhood girlfriend’s house for drinks and appetizers with a small group of our ladies. I had my first sip of wine in more than two months, and we stayed up way too late hanging out. We talked about serious stuff, how I was doing and just about everything under the sun — so many laughs were had. And it felt good to be there doing it, even if I was exhausted the next day,

The next day, I had tennis in the afternoon (and I hadn’t been in several weeks, and my performance reflected that for sure), then after a hearty nap, Dave and I went out to dinner in the evening. We hadn’t made these plans in advance, but I texted two of our babysitters at 5 p.m. and one of them was available, so we headed out a couple hours later.

That night for dinner, I dressed up for the first time in what seems like forever. I was only in my favorite white jeans, but I actually put on heels and did my hair, and it had been months since that last happened. Once again, it felt good to get out, and I needed it.

Before BCC drink date by A Lady Goes West

White jeans outfit by A Lady Goes West

(Here are my white jeans, which were a very worthy splurge from earlier this year, and they are currently on sale. I’m wearing a medium, and they are so comfy.)

Finally, the next day, on Sunday, I went to a baby shower for a sweet neighborhood girlfriend who is having twins. And while I was happy to be with my friends and celebrating the twin-momma-to-be, there were some hard moments for me. I was mostly have a good time and enjoying the company, but of course — when she was opening her gifts and holding up tiny baby clothes — the sadness hit. Isn’t it funny how things can be triggers?

I had no doubt I’d be at this shower to support this lovely friend and share in her celebrations, but the timing was definitely not ideal for me, because I’m still processing a lot of grief of my personal loss. I kept a smile on my face though, and I truly did feel happy for my friend. What I’m finding a lot right now is joy mixed with grief. I’ve been through this before, so it’s not a new feeling, but it’s always a strange combination to manage in daily life.

Mustard yellow dress by A Lady Goes West

(Here’s the dress I wore to the shower. It’s new. I’m wearing a small. It needed to be ironed a little better, but Dave is my ironer, and he was out while I was getting ready, so I showed up in a wrinkly dress.)

Daily moments that bring me joy

I’ve very much back into my routine, but I feel like it’s important to say that I’m not 100 percent. And that’s okay and expected. We often want to feel like we’re over our grief or loss so we can just be better. But for me, grief tends to linger a bit, and it combines with with daily life and moments of happiness and joy. I wrote more about this topic here.

Right now, I have to thank Brady for bringing me so much light every single day. We spend almost all day every day together right now (other than when he’s at kid-care at the gym), and he’s my little bestie. He’s so chatty, so caring, so affectionate, and he provides me non-stop entertainment too. I’ve never appreciated him like I do right now, and that’s saying a lot.

Ashley and Brady in the car by A Lady Goes West

Ashley and Brady in the car by A Lady Goes West

Lately, I’ve been taking extra pleasure in the time we spend dancing together in the kitchen, the time we spend in the driver’s seat of the car when he sits on my lap if we arrive to the gym early and have a little time to kill, and I’ve been taking the most pleasure in his little hand in mine whenever we’re out and about. I’m so blessed to have this little man, and that’s a real favorite of the day right there.

And moving on to the regular stuff …

Workouts

My workouts from last week

Here’s where I share a recap of my previous week of workouts. I share this to show you how I try to get diversity in my week, and how I always take a rest day (almost always). But remember, I do a little bit more than the average person, because I’m a group fitness instructor. 

New weekly workouts by A Lady Goes West

Workouts from the week of 8/1

  • Monday: Rest/recovery day
  • Tuesday: Taught 1-hour barre class with light weights, 9:30 a.m.
  • Wednesday: Taught 45-minute barre class with light weights, 5:30 p.m.
  • Thursday: Taught 45-minute combo class with weights, 9:45 a.m.
  • Friday: Taught 45-minute barbell class, 11:30 a.m.
  • Saturday: Took 90-minute tennis lesson, 11 a.m.
  • Sunday: Practiced barre at home for 45 minutes, 10 a.m.

This past week started out with an extra rest day, because I was still at home recovering from my miscarriage and surgery. I was very happy to get back to the gym on Tuesday to return to my classes, and it’s been healing for me to see my gym community. I’m focusing on my classes right now, but I do plan to add in some solo workouts moving forward when I can. And yoga — I want some yoga in my life again (and I ended up going this current week, so yay).

Best read of the week …

Here’s an article that I wanted to share with you:

Expiration dates on skincare products. Did you know that your makeup, skincare and body products have shelf lives? They do. And things don’t last forever. In case you need a refresher on how long to keep your products, this is a good one to read. A big thing to check out right now during summer is your sunscreen. You should only keep it for a year, so check your dates, my friend. And protect that beautiful skin of yours.

Quote of the week …

Here’s a thought I shared on Instagram that I wanted to share here too:

Something good quote by A Lady Goes West

Blog archives of the week …

Let’s look back at two blog posts worth revisiting, including a recent one:

Food. One of the most requested topics is always food, so that’s what you got earlier this week … “Everything I ate on a day when I needed convenient food.”

Protein oatmeal breakfast by A Lady Goes West

Books. Are you a nonfiction reader? I sure am. Here are some good ones to consider … “The five best nonfiction books I’ve read in the last six months.”

The five best nonfiction books I've read in the last six months by A Lady Goes West

That’s all for today, my friend. I hope you have a good day, and I hope you find time to appreciate the little things in life that bring a smile to your face. Be well out there. 🙂 

Questions of the day for YOU …

How was your week?

What’s one thing you’re looking forward to this weekend?

What’s one thing you’re planning to work on this weekend?

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2 Comments

  1. Don’t have the right words but sending you a virtual hug! Keeping your family and friends close and enjoying your little guy will continue to help. 💞 We don’t have much planned this weekend but enjoying the last few weeks of summer before our oldest starts school. Have a nice weekend!

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