My personal year in review for 2022

Happy New Year! Hi, friend! It’s time for a personal year in review for 2022! In case you missed it, I published my professional year in review for 2022 here.

Time flies. It really does. And while 2020 may have been the slowest year of my life on record (thank you COVID, personal struggles, a cross-country move and more to make it drag on), 2022 was perhaps one of the fastest — if not the fastest ever.

After a strange couple of years (because 2021 was totally a transition year), I felt like 2022 was normal, and I liked that. Overall, 2022 was a good year. I did the numbers, and in 2022, I taught 252 classes, I published 102 blog posts, and I took nine out-of-town trips. Wow! (I also made a video about my year, which you can see here.)

39th birthday at Life Time by A Lady Goes West

This was our first full year in Charlotte, this was the first full calendar year that Brady was in school (even though, yes, he took the summer off), and 2022 was the first year I felt like I was happy and content with what I was doing and who I was with — not craving change, as I had been for a couple years in California. And to top it off, my mom moved to Charlotte the latter part of 2022, which has been one of the highlights of the year.

Ashley and Mom at barre by A Lady Goes West

But 2022 also had some hard moments — some of which I shared on the blog, and some of which I didn’t. And I’ll get into all of that in just a bit. But first, let’s review how I did on my personal goals, and then we’ll wrap things up with a 2022 overview. Let’s get to it …

My personal year in review for 2022

My personal year in review for 2022 on A Lady Goes West

Making measurable and achievable goals in both your personal and professional life is a powerful way to make sure you’re always moving forward. I like to look back at my goals throughout the year to see if I’m still focused on them or not.

For my personal goals in 2022, I actually did a decent job of achieving most of them (which isn’t quite how it went professionally). Here’s how I did …

My personal goals for 2022

I set a goal to start a personal hobby in 2022. I nailed this goal. And because of this goal, I have a totally new outlet in my life — not related to blogging or teaching group fitness or momming. In February 2022, I went for my first adult beginner tennis clinic, and I didn’t even know how to hold a racket when I showed up. Today, now 10 months later, I’m a regular tennis player. I have tennis friends. I wear tennis skirts. I have a fancy tennis backpack. I go to tennis sometimes twice a week, and I feel like a real athlete. I have thoroughly enjoyed taking on a new hobby and a new sport, which challenges me so much. I’m just a student and a beginner in the tennis world, and being in that position has made me so much more aware of how my class participants must feel when they’re just starting out in group fitness too. Starting tennis has been one of the coolest things I’ve done in 2022, and I’m so proud of myself for sticking with it, even though my progress is slow. And even though I just found out I make strange faces every time I hit the ball, so I guess I need to work on that now too. I met this goal. (Related post: “What it’s like starting tennis as an adult”)

Ashley after tennis on a Tuesday by A Lady Goes West

I set a goal to continue to strengthen my community in Charlotte in 2022. I can’t believe that Dave, Brady, Rudy and I are coming up on two years in Charlotte next month. It seems like we’ve been here forever, and that’s because this is truly our home. I have so much more to say about this point, and I’ll cover that next month in a two-year recap. But for now: Yes, we have a real community. I have great friends. I made friends pretty quickly here, and I’ve got that same group, with some new additions. I also have great people I’ve become connected with at Life Time. I feel so happy with the people and community in my life, and it’s maybe the best it’s ever been. I met this goal. (Related post: “How to make friends in a new place“)

Andreas party by A Lady Goes West

I set a goal to not become over-scheduled and to learn to say no more in 2022. I have to admit that 2022 flew by like no other year of my life. I was so busy in 2022, and while I do like to be busy, there were times when it got to be too much with work and life. I haven’t been great about saying “no” to things either. I love social activities. I love my classes. I love to do things. And now I’ve added twice weekly 90-minute tennis clinics to the mix. And that means I often end up with several things on my calendar every day of the week. I don’t think I failed at this goal, because I had some whitespace, but I don’t think I excelled here either. I’m still trying to figure out how to do all the things I want to do and still have some downtime. I think it’s a great problem to have, but it’s also tiring at times. And nobody wants to hear me talk about how busy I am any longer, you know? I think this goal is a work in progress, so not quite met.

Brady and Ashley on the front step 2022 by A Lady Goes West

I set a goal to take care of my body and always commit to one rest day a week in 2022. I think I did a pretty good job at taking care of myself this year. I did pretty well with sleep. I ate pretty well, without being strict, cutting out any food groups or calculating my macros. I upped my protein intake the second half of the year loosely though. And I also started fitting in one personal workout a week more often (mostly starting in the second half of the year). I also almost always took a rest day each week. Physically, I feel stronger than I have in many years, and that’s an amazing feeling. There are always things I need to work on, but for now, I think I’m in a good place here, even if I wouldn’t mind growing my muscles just a little bit more and looking a little bit more “toned.” But yes, I drank a lot of wine, I ate a lot of cheesecake, and I never skipped a Sunday pizza night either — and that will never change. I met this goal.

Eating Bradys donut by A Lady Goes West

And that’s how I tracked on my personal goals! I think I did a lot better on my personal goals than I did on my professional goals, to tell you the truth. Because I mostly met them, and perhaps that’s why I had less time to work on my professional goals. I’m glad I had goals for both areas of my life though, and I will continue to do that moving forward.

But now, let’s get into the other stuff …

Overall thoughts on my personal year in review for 2022

Here’s the deal: I feel healthy, strong, content and loved, and I feel very comfortable and happy with my surroundings, home and community. Those are amazing things. Yes, there are always things I want to change about my body (especially as a group fitness instructor on stage in front of hundreds a week, I tend to be a bit hard on myself and critical). Yes, there are always things I want to improve about my life too (who doesn’t feel that way). But I’m confident that I’m doing what I should be doing, even if I may need to realign or slightly adjust my work in the future based on how I did on my professional review.

Use protein powder to increase your intake with NOW by A Lady Goes West

Even though this is my personal review and not my professional one, it’s worth repeating that I worked really hard this year. I spent a lot of time preparing group fitness classes, teaching group fitness classes and thinking about group fitness classes. I also spent a lot of time thinking about the content and direction of this blog, which is closely linked to my personal life as well. And I feel a shift coming. But, for me, it’s not as easy as finding a new job and making the switch, you know? There’s a lot more to it, and that weighs on me.

Ashley teaching LifeBarre on the mat by A Lady Goes West
But let’s be honest here: 2022 was not a perfect year for me at all. I started 2022 sick with COVID and unsure about the future of our family. I struggled with another pregnancy ending in a miscarriage and D&E surgery, this time at 10 weeks along. It was devastating and awful, and several of my fun summer memories took place when I was pregnant. So when I look back at trips from earlier this year, all I can think about was that I was planning for a different future then, than I am now. That’s really hard, because I/we still don’t know if we’re closing the door on adding to our family or not. I have decided that in the next few months, I want to know for sure, because the enormity of the indecision is stifling, and my 40th birthday is now less than a year away, so time is not on our side. And perhaps you can relate to the feeling of indecision with something you’re dealing with. It’s not fun, and it’s not easy.

Family photos at Camp North End

Yet, still, there was a lot of fun in 2022. A whole lot of fun, actually! I did so many social activities, I had a blast with my girlfriends and my little family. I was more social than I have been in years. I used to be very strict about only doing “fun” things on Friday or Saturday, but I’ve opened myself up to fairly regular Thursday wine nights with ladies, and even Sunday brunches and more. Overall, I’m just more loose with everything, except my work, and that’s pretty freeing.

Smoked salmon benedict at Cafe Monte by A Lady Goes West

We went on some great little trips this year too — nine total. In 2022, we visited Asheville, we visited my brother in Atlanta and went to the Georgia Aquarium; we went on a joint family trip to Pigeon Forge, Tennessee; I traveled to Las Vegas for the IDEA World Fitness Convention; I went on a girls’ trip to Nashville with my long-time Florida friends; we went to Ohio for Labor Day; we went to Florida for a family wedding; we went to Orlando for a fun friends’ birthday weekend; and we went back to Atlanta for Thanksgiving. That’s a lot of trips!

I love that we went so many places and we saw so many people, and I’d love to repeat that next year. We already have an idea for some of our trips for next year, and I’ll share about them soon. It feels good to get away, but I always love to come back home too. And now, the best addition to our lives: My mom lives just 10 minutes from us, so we don’t have to travel to see her and she doesn’t have to travel to see us.

Supper Club in Nashville by A Lady Goes West

Dollywood Park fun day by A Lady Goes West

In 2022, we also made some improvements to our home. We updated our kitchen, and we added some wallpaper to a couple of rooms. I love our house so much, but there’s a lot more I want to do. I’m glad we tackled some projects this year and think we’ll try to do more in the future. It’s a lovely southern brick home, but it was built in the 1990s, and there are many areas of our home that scream 1999 — like many of our ugly bathrooms, but that’s totally fine. I hope we stay here for a very long time, so that means we’ll need to continue making improvements as we go. I’ve never loved a home I’ve lived as much as this one though, that’s for sure.

Wallpaper by A Lady Goes West

Kitchen refresh by A Lady Goes West

As far as family is concerned, Brady grew up like crazy this year too, and he’s now sleeping in a regular bed, when he started the year in a tiny convertible toddler bed. He also did his first team sport (it was soccer, which had us up for chilly 8 a.m. games on Saturday mornings for a couple months, coached by Dave). Brady also has a great group of friends, and we finally launched into the birthday party circuit with that group this year too — and getting to know the moms of his friends and getting to see Brady’s relationships develop has been super special. We also held a big 5th birthday party for Brady, which was just fantastic, because we hadn’t had a big party for him since his 1st back in California. He’s so grown up now, and is a true conversationalist and friend — and I love watching him impress me every single day, even when he boops me on the nose to wake me up on the weekends. (Related post: “Brady’s 5-year update“)

Family at the party by A Lady Goes West

Ashley and Brady with LM equipment by A Lady Goes West

A few other highlights: Dave and I celebrated our 10-year wedding anniversary, we went to see “Hamilton,” we tried pickleball for the first time (just a few days ago, and boy was it fun), we did a lot of fun things with our group of friends as couples, and we also struggled sometimes, with time, responsibilities, stress, decisions and other stuff. It wasn’t perfect, friend, and I’m not going to sit here and say that it was. But we did it together, and that’s what we’ll always do.

Seeing Hamilton by A Lady Goes West

RH Rooftop after anniversary dinner by A Lady Goes West

Closing out 2022, I will say once again that I feel happy and fulfilled. I love what I do and who I’m with. But I also know that I need to make some decisions both personally and professionally that will change the course of my days and my future. I’m not sure what the answers are to either of those questions, but I’ll be working on that, and I’ll keep you posted as things unfold.

I invite you to take some time to think about your year and see if you learned anything that you want to take with you into 2023. I know I did!

Family photos at Camp North End

And that concludes my personal year in review for 2022. Thank you so much for being a reader of A Lady Goes West. Have a wonderful start to 2023. I’ll see you back here very soon! 

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4 Comments

  1. Great post as always. i can def. understand how you feel about maybe trying for another baby// turning 40 but you never know! my good friend struggled for yearssssss and couldn’t get pregnant (she was younger too) and did the IVF, everything and finally (ivf) it worked and at 49 and 50 YES ! had two kids!!!!!! a boy and girl. i forgot her actual age but very close together AND had perfect pregancies and perfect regular birth. i was so happy for her. i know its easier when you are younger but as you know, the body is so mysterious!

    What’s something you felt really good about this year? that i finally made a decision about the gym! i was going to a boxing gym for years but things changed w/ their times/schedules, teachers, then joined anotoher gym but no clasess and found it hard to ‘train myself’ so finally last night joined another boxing gym, paying a bit more BUT i think it will be so much better. the teachers are awesome. i will be going at 5:45am tomorrow but that is what works best! getting it done, on w/ the day!!! i need to lose weight. somehow w/ working out and ‘most of time’ eating healthy, i gained weight! and i’m 55, which doesn’t help so doing these classes i think will help. it better. i set my alarm for 430am! haha

    What’s something you learned in your personal life this year? like i previously said in your other blog post, i say yes way too often and trying to work on that! have a greatnight!

    1. Hi Stacy! I love your thoughtful and thorough responses. That’s great you decided on a new gym, and the early morning workout grind isn’t easy — but it’s actually really good for you and sets the tone for a very healthy day too. And, I’m with you on saying no more when you need to. I’m wishing you a wonderful start to 2023, friend! 🙂 xxox

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