What I’ve learned from the first 90 days of starting a meditation practice

Hi, friends! I’ve been looking forward to sharing this post with you … Why? Because I’ve actually started something new — meditation — and it’s worth chatting about.

I have to say that I’m pretty proud of the fact that I am doing it, and I’m even more proud of the other unexpected things that starting a meditation practice has uncovered for me. Truth be told: It was a long-time coming. I’ve been reading and even writing about the benefits of meditation and being more mindful for years and years, but was never in a place where I was ready to really jump in until a few months ago. And I’ve always wondered what all the fuss was about …

Then, one morning, I downloaded the Headspace app and just went for it. I did that again for 30 days. I missed a day here and there after those initial 30, but I continued practicing. And now, I’m using the Calm app — I had another 30-day streak, I missed a couple days and am back on it daily and plan to keep it going, meaning it’s been pretty consistent for more than 90 days now.

How I meditate

As I mentioned, I do a guided meditation via the Calm app on my phone, using headphones, so a voice walks me through getting into the zone, and I can passively listen and accept what I’m hearing, while focusing on my breath and awareness. This is working well for me, and I plan to stick with the guided versions rather than do a solo meditation at this point. I like both Headspace and Calm, and would definitely recommend using Headspace to get started for your first 30 days, because it’s a got a ton of helpful tips for walking you through what you’re supposed to be doing. 

What I’ve learned from the first 90 days of starting a meditation practice

We all know that meditating is supposed to make you feel zen. But I’ve learned so much more than that. Here we go …

What I've learned from the first 90 days of starting a meditation practice by A Lady Goes West

Meditation is a practice.

Here’s the thing about meditation: You probably won’t start out good at it. You may be bored and/or turned off even by the idea. It’s not that easy to be alone with your thoughts and sit still thinking or not thinking — because the goal is to be present, not to get lost in thoughts.

My mind often wanders to other things, and at first, I would think that was a failure. But I’ve learned that the mind will always wander, and now I just need to say “hello” to the thought and get back to stillness and awareness Acknowledging the passing thoughts without letting them throw you off is the ideal way to handle them. Every meditation I learn something new. Some days I am more focused, some days I am not. But it’s a practice, and it’s one that I am enjoying becoming more familiar with. I hope to continue getting better at it, and it’ll take work. 

Meditating with Calm app by A Lady Goes West - July 2019

Yes, I can make changes in my life and change behaviors.

This is the biggest one for me.

You know how we all have little stories we tell ourselves about what we can and cannot do? I tend to get stuck in routines and never veer off them (as best as you can when you have a toddler around, anyhow). I teach and take the same workout classes (and have for years). I eat similar food. I watch similar shows. I wear similar things. I just like similar and same. So when it comes to truly changing things up and adding a new behavior in my daily routine — that’s hard for me. I always want to make changes, but then don’t. But I’ve done it with this one. I’ve really added meditation, and that makes me feel good that I can change, and I can add things to my life.

Truthfully, although it’s a new behavior, it doesn’t take much time, and it’s worth all the time spent. And I’m so glad I’m not still walking around saying “one day, I’ll meditate,” because I’m actually doing it. Ten minutes a day and all sorts of benefits.

The first 90 days of starting a meditation practice by A Lady Goes West - July 2019

No matter what happens in your day, if you start it mindfully, you’re better able to handle all that comes.

For the first 20 months or so of Brady’s life, I slept until he woke up, because I really needed and wanted that extra sleep. That meant that every single morning began with both of us starting our day and me tending to many of his needs while and/or before my own. We had a decent routine down, but it was always a little chaotic, especially when trying to get out of the house for me to teach an earlier group fitness class. But now, I set my alarm and wake up about 30 minutes before him, so I can immediately drink some water and set up for my short 10-12 minute meditation. From there, I get my tea ready, organize a few things for breakfast in the kitchen, and then am ready for him and get him up or let Dave get him up.

This isn’t just about me waking up earlier, it’s about me spending those 10-12 minutes in a mindful state, thinking about my breath, being still and forgetting about all the other little to-dos on the list — focusing on ME. I am instantly more peaceful, more ready to handle all that comes and definitely in a better mood than if I started the day in a more spastic way. We all benefit from it. I have really noticed my ability to handle slightly stressful Brady-toddler-tandrum-related situations with a more level head, and those have all been on days that I’ve started with a good meditation.

CALM quote by A Lady Goes West - June 2019

Gratefulness is more than just a buzzword.

Every single morning when I do my meditation, I always take a minute to tell myself in my head the things I’m thankful for. And this is new to me. I’m not necessarily ungrateful, but meditating has made me be extra grateful. I don’t have a gratitude journal, and I don’t have a specific way of working on my gratitude, but meditation has done that for me, as an extra benefit that I wasn’t expecting from it. It just sort’ve came along for the ride.

In fact, when I sit there with my headphones cross-legged on the couch in front of the windows looking out on our backyard, I am happy to be healthy and able-bodied, I am happy to have my family and house, and I am happy to have a job (or several jobs) that I truly love. I’m totally a recovering perfectionist, and I can definitely get down about things — especially when I fall into the comparison trap on social media, seeing other people’s businesses and followings exploding before my slow-moving eyes. But when I take deep breaths, focus on my breathing and focus on being in the present state — it just makes me feel good, feel content … and, well … feel grateful. And gratefulness goes a long way. You feel better about yourself, your situation, and thus, you’re able to make better decisions and show up better for those in your life. And that’s pretty powerful.

You are more than your body. Mental fitness is a thing.

This one may seem a little fluffy, but hear me out. Being a mom, a group fitness instructor and someone who writes about health and wellness for a living, it can be easy to get wrapped up in food, fitness, workouts, mobility, movement and all of that. You know, always trying to improve how strong or fast or fit you are.

But really, when you’re sitting still meditating and focusing on your breath — you are more than your body. Learning how to control your thoughts is an entirely new practice for me that does not include repetitions, weight, cardio or physical challenge. It’s a mental challenge, and I LOVE working on something new. I know I can hold a plank for several minutes, and I know I can do 1,000 reps in a BODYPUMP class, but I can barely keep my mind focused on the out breath for 30 seconds without wandering — but I’m determined to get better at it. This whole idea of working on something mental is a great way to move away from preoccupation with the body, appearance, etc., and that’s definitely not what I expected to learn.

It just feels good.

When it comes down to it, meditation feels good. I crave it now. And I love that post-meditation feeling so much. I always come out centered, feeling strong, happy and good about spending time on something that ultimately makes me a better person — a person who knows their place, has perspective and can handle their thoughts like a champ with true awareness. (Although, I still have a lot of work to do on this!)

In closing, meditation is not just a fad or a trendy activity. It’s a longstanding and effective practice that helps you achieve mindfulness and mental stability too. And it’s the real deal.

If you’ve been wondering if meditation is something that could benefit you, I truly encourage you to just jump right in and give it a go.

My first 90 days of starting meditation by A Lady Goes West - July 2019

(Wearing the best leggings.)

How to get started meditating …

  1. Charge your phone, download the Headspace app.
  2. Find a quiet place in your home with no people, or distractions. 
  3. Sit up, with a straight spine, either on a chair, couch or bed.
  4. Pop on some headphones. 
  5. Click on Headspace, find the Basics course, hit play and go. You can choose from 3-10 minutes and shoot for 10 minutes for your first session.
  6. Have an open mind, breathe, keep your eyes closed, and soak it up.
  7. Enjoy!

My first 90 days of starting a meditation practice by A Lady Goes West - July 2019

A few tips for meditating …

  • Try to do it every single day, because you get better the more you do it, and consistency is key.
  • I think first thing in the morning is ideal, so set your alarm to get up a bit earlier and get those 10-20 minutes in — but any time is better than nothing.
  • Invest in some noise-canceling headphones with good sound, because it makes the experience even better when you’re using a guided meditation. I use these.
  • I would recommend using Headspace for at least your first 30 days, because it is top notch when it comes to gently introducing you to the idea of meditation. From there, you can purchase Headspace to continue or try Calm, which has a free 7-day trial. There are other apps, I’m sure, but I think these two are the most popular. Calm has little daily lessons that offer up advice on life like happiness, relationships, stress, etc. and you get the best quote tiles (shown above in this post) once you finish each day too — love that.
  • Consider doing additional short meditations throughout the day as needed. Unfortunately, because my only quiet time during the day is Brady’s 2-2.5 hour nap, which I use exclusively for work, I haven’t done a second meditation, but I feel like it would be awesome and a great way to get centered if your day goes awry, and I may give it a go soon.
  • Remember that meditating is a practice, and you’ll have good days and bad days, but the fact that you are investing any time in it at all speaks wonders for your effort — good job!

The most important thing to note is that I’m just a beginner and I definitely don’t have the answers, but I’m feeling very excited about this new endeavor and absolutely will be keeping it going, so expect more to come on this.

I hope you have a wonderful day!

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  1. Thanks so much for sharing! I really enjoy guided meditations. My full-time job has a daily guided meditation during lunch time which I used to go to all the time, but I’ve fallen off! I’d love to get back to it.

    I used to not be into yoga at all, but now I love a good hot yoga class that allows me some time to meditate. It really does help when you have such a busy schedule!

    1. Okay, your job offers guided meditation every day? That is AMAZING — so yes, you should get back to it and take advantage of that perk. I haven’t been doing yoga at all, and I miss it. Hot sweaty yoga with a long meditation is the besttttttt — happy Monday, to you, Dom!! Have a great day and hit up that meditation!

  2. I started meditating a little over 2 years ago and the difference has been incredible. After a few months I noticed I was much more patient, and a few after that, my anxiety had significantly decreased. It’s amazing what only 10 minutes a day can do! I use a combo of headspace and Calm (I looooove Calm’s sleep stories, but prefer Headspace’s daily meditations. Congrats on the new life change 🙂

    1. I love to hear that, Brittany! That’s amazing. It’s incredible what working on your mental fitness can do. And I haven’t tried the Calm sleep stories before — I really need to. Have a wonderful day, and thanks for saying hi!!

  3. Nice job! I started meditating in February and I really enjoy it. I do 5 minutes a day unguided. I used to use Head Space but then tried doing it on my own and haven’t looked back. It’s definitely still a practivce though and I think it always will be. Some days are better than others.

    1. That’s amazing to hear, Betsy! I should really try doing an unguided meditation one day. And you are right, some days are better than others. Thanks for sharing and saying hi! Hope your Monday is great. 🙂

  4. I actually had Calm for a LONG time but I slowly got into the habit of doing the body scans to help me sleep. It wasn’t an every day thing but it was helpful. Recently, I’ve been doing the Peloton meditations almost daily. From simple 5 minute meditations to help me acknowledge and process some crazy emotions at work to body scans that help me sleep. Seriously, those are lift savers and since my routine is a little crazy now, it keeps me from staying up all night thinking. Meditation has changed my life!

    1. Wow, Virjinia, that is amazing. I had no idea Peloton offered meditations too — I have never tried the bike or tread or workouts, but would love to. Everyone should have the body scan tool in their back pocket for sleep. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  5. It is a goal of mine to get started with meditation. I have the Calm app on my phone now I just need to dive in. I love reading about all of the positive changes that you have experienced since you got started!

    1. Yessss you should get started — no need to keep waiting, you don’t have to have it all figured out to do your first meditation. Good luck and let me know how it goes! 🙂

  6. Might want to mention to turn your phone on silent before meditating! That’s always a sure way to get out of the zone — haha.

    I’ve been using Circle & Bloom which is a fertility specific meditation so it takes me through 28 days of my cycle. If my cycle is longer I repeat some of them or use Insight Timer.

    On morning I go into the office I make sure to wake up at least 15 minutes early to lay in bed and get my meditation in. It forces me to not run down my “to-do” list first thing upon waking up.

    I can honestly say I am a happier person since meditating daily. It is such a practice like you mentioned. Some days are so great and some days my mind wonders more than I wish it would.

    1. Kelli! That is sooo cool there is a fertility meditation program. I love to hear that tool. And props to you for taking the time to get your meditation in — you are better for it and so are the people in your life. Thank you so much for sharing. Oh, and YESSSS, turn off the phone hahah — I’ve definitely gotten a text during a meditation. 🙂

  7. Ashley, your information on meditation is great! I have a subscription to (Mindful) and more information on meditation than I have time to keep up with or read, but I think it is a great one to subscribe to. Thanks! Doris

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