Hi, friends! Hope you had a great weekend, full of fun and relaxation. Today, I’ve got something different for you. And no, this isn’t just another post telling you what to eat and what not to eat. It’s more than that …
Through working at the gym over the years with clients and class members and through writing this blog, I’ve come across plenty of people who have some bad habits that they just can’t shake. And the thing is, most of the time, they don’t even know they are doing anything that is actually holding them back rather than helping them. And yes, I’ve definitely done some of these too — because the best way to learn what NOT to do, is to do it the wrong way first.
Three things that could be holding you back from feeling good on a daily basis
So today, I just want to throw some things I’ve learned out there. Take it or leave it, and here we go …
1. Stepping on the scale every morning and letting that number dictate your day.
I do not step on the scale regularly. In fact, I step on the scale at the doctor’s office and maybe once a month at home or less. Because the batteries in our scale died a while back and we never replaced them, it’s been a long time since I weighed myself. I don’t know how much I weigh, and I really don’t care to know. It’s probably about what I weighed when I got pregnant two years ago. And it’s definitely more than when I was underweight and overexercising and struggling with my hormones. (More on all that here.)
Many years ago when I worked in the corporate world, I used to step on the scale every single morning, and the number on the scale would tell me if I was gaining, losing or staying the same. Somehow, that number made me feel better, worse or unsure — as far as the control I had in my life — like it mattered as an indicator of something more than just weight. Here’s the truth I’ve come to learn over the last few years as I settled into a healthy place and ditched that morning ritual: Your weight on the scale is NOT a reflection of how healthy you are or of you as a person (or of how successful you are, for sure). If you are super hydrated or you’ve been putting on muscle from a new lifting program, then you will weigh more — but you are actually healthier. If you get sick, miss a few meals or stop working out altogether and lose muscle, you will weigh less, but you are actually less healthy. Your weight is not important in the true aspects of health at all, and it can fluctuate so much, anyhow. (Quick side note: However, if you are very much underweight or very much overweight, then you perhaps need to be a bit more conscious of how you are measuring how you’re doing for health reasons — but the majority of us do not fall into these categories.)
Then, you ask, what is important to assess your health and fitness? How your clothes fit. How you are sleeping. How your skin looks. How much energy you have. How your workouts are going. How your digestion is. These things are “non-scale victories,” and they are also great ways to make sure that you are living your life in a healthy way. You do NOT need to worry about being a certain weight just to say you are, because quite frankly, unless you are a wrestler or flyer in a cheerleader pyramid, nobody cares.
If you are still stepping on the scale daily to find a number to tell you how to feel, I urge you to stop. Instead of doing that, drink a big glass of room temperature water, stand up straight, put on an outfit that makes you feel confident and give yourself a big smile in the mirror. You have to know that deep down, stepping on that scale every day is a bad habit you should break. It may mean moving your scale out of the bathroom so it’s out of sight, and if that’s what you have to do, that’s what you have to do.
2. Mindlessly scrolling social media wishing you were someone else in someone else’s perfect life.
When you really think about it, do you actually want to be someone else? No, you don’t. But when you’re bored, stressed or down and scrolling through Facebook or Instagram, it can be very easy to think that so many people have it better than you.
My story when I’m pity scrolling? If I had family nearby to help with Brady regularly I could be working so much harder on the blog and growing my own social media more aggressively, so I’d get more opportunities and be out doing more fun things all the time — thus, I’d probably be dressed in normal clothes a lot more and not always in activewear and running after a toddler and would generally have it all locked down in a more put together way. (Yup, that’s my line of thinking — so convoluted, but so real.)
What’s your story? I bet you have one! The grass is already always greener on the other side, so when you throw in the perfectly curated selection of images people actually choose to post to social media (many of them, posted as part of someone’s job and thus requiring TONs of thought and editing), the grass is on a different level. It’s not even grass. It’s not even green anymore. So just forget about it. No comparison.
I’m not saying you can’t be on social media, because a lot of good things can come from it. But I do think that you should UN-follow people that make you feel badly about yourself or badly about your life in general. And I do think that you should only scroll social media when you are in a good place and are looking for entertainment rather than looking to make yourself feel worse. (Been there, done that!)
The people you are following with perfect lives and perfect bodies are not perfect. They have their own issues, and they are often also wishing they were someone else or were somewhere else too.
So instead of everyone wanting to be like other people, maybe we just all try to focus more on our own happiness? It’s separate from what everyone else is doing anyhow, and we can’t forget that.
Once again, it’s totally cool to like and comment and play and connect on Facebook and Instagram, but much like stepping on the scale everyday, if you feel bad or get your worth from social media, you need to take a good hard look at that habit. End rant.
3. Always waiting for the absolute perfect time to start something new or make a change.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard someone say they want to start something or make a change, but they need to wait for X and for Y. But X and Y really have nothing to do with starting something new or making that change. It’s just a way to delay and postpone and keep waffling.
Don’t get me wrong, working in a busy job, moving, having a baby — all of these things take a lot of your attention and focus and can be great excuses at times — but if you really want to start something or make a change, then you just have to go for it.
I did this for a long time with Beautycounter, and much before that, it was writing a blog. I wish I had started sooner. I was always waiting for the right time, then all of a sudden a move across the country gave me a big kick enough to create the blog. But it could have been years earlier, if I had just pulled the trigger, and I wish I had. I’d probably be a lot further along if I had jumped in earlier.
Right now, the big thing I want to do is meditate. Never done it before, outside of a structured yoga or reiki class. I keep telling myself I’ll start soon, because I have read about so many of the benefits that would be helpful in my daily life. But what am I waiting for? Who knows. In my head, I keep thinking I’ll start this when …
All I do know is that when you are sitting there wanting to make a change but not making it, what you end up doing is obsessing over how you wish things were or how you wish things could be. But, there’s no need to sit and obsess, just take that time and turn it into action. Even just a tiny step in the right direction can be beneficial. Truth!
If you want to start a blog, become a group fitness instructor, build new muscles or change jobs, just make little motions in the right direction and go for it right now. You’ll be SO happy that you did. And that will in turn affect your overall health and happiness too. Stepping out of your comfort zone feels pretty good. I promise! 🙂
That’s all I’ve got for you today, my friends. I hope you liked this one, and I hope that you can take something from it in your own life! Please, as always, let me know your thoughts in the comments. Be good and whatever you do — don’t spend too much time on your phone or on the scale today. 🙂
More posts you may like …
- How to know what health and fitness information to follow
- How to learn to be less rigid to find your real health
- What you should know if you don’t love fitness and what you can do about it
- My top six Beautycounter products and how I take care of my skin
- What does your workout mean to you
- This is my actual must-do healthy morning routine to start the day
- Are you doing enough? Here’s how to be a better judge of yourself
(P.S. The outfit I’m wearing in these pictures is from Fabletics, I usually get one outfit a month.)
Questions of the day
How was your weekend?
Do you do any of these bad habits?
What’s something you’ve been waiting to act on?
What’s one bad habit you’ve successfully dropped?